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5 July 2007

Welcome to Intercourse


For the life of me... I cannot understand why sex is so difficult for Christians to talk about. It's a tragedy really.

There is a new book out called , "Forbidden Fruit: Sex & Religion in the Lives of American Teenagers"

Statistically; it says that 80% of American Evangelicals think that sex should be saved for marriage. Yet...they are just as likely (if not more so) to have sex before marriage!

Other sex and marriage related stats like divorce rate, homosexuality, adultery, etc... are virtually the same in the church as they are in the world. So it stands to reason that Christians think lots about sex too! I do.

Sex statistics from The Kinney Institute say that men think about sex every 52 seconds !
That's a lot of sex thinking for God hungry, born again, spirit filled , unashamed Christians!
It's an awesome, God-ordained, exciting, connecting, Covenantal part of Christian life that deserves to be spoken of, taught about, and spirit-led!

The reason why schools began to teach their students about sex, is simply because the parents were endangering their kids by leaving them in the dark about the bits and pieces. NOW... Christians are leaving EACH OTHER in the dark by not delving deeper into this well laid out world prepared for us by our King.

You're more likely to think about sex than God, yet in Christendom, we pretend this world doesn't exist... leaving those "hungry" for something deeper to find their answers in a secular world that speaks about it at will. Why? Because people are searching from something deeper in every area of life.

Without the Holy Spirit, sex can be a grand ole' letdown because it's discluded its designer from the equation.

It's not just a "don't do it if you're not married", beginning and end. Once you're ready to light that fire, new cans of worms are opened up. It's a journey, like prayer is a journey that you learn more about as you dig.

It's only an uncomfortable topic because we're not used to thinking that it's OK to speak of in dignified company. This generation of Revolutionary Young Adults don't care about old religious thoughts and hangups. The rest of the church should take note.

There will be great fruit that comes out of this. Learning about it is an investment in your marriage.

5 comments:

Amazing Kris said...

They have different Christians down in the States, Dave. They give Christians a bad name, in my opinion. As an agnostic, I try to be respectful of everyone else's faith, but these guys... I don't know. Let's just say that some sheep strey from the flock, kinda like space vessels out of signal range.
Without the next message from Houston, they begin to act on their own, and still call it "Our Mission". Ideas are buzzed into some people's heads that sex is for creation only, and to even enjoy it with your lawful wife is a dirty thing.
That energy is meant to be saved for other things, like fear, etc. Imagine how confused a person can get by getting rapped on the knuckles for something that seems natural.

(I understand if you delete this, by the way. I have a bit of a skewed impression of society, and thus, I have a prepared statement for certain things that don't make sense. It helps me sleep at night.)

Big Ear Creations said...

Delete nothin... I'm with ya with most of that. Specifically about sex (what this was about) it's quite a repressed culture.

Now I do believe that it's meant for within' marriage because it's only in the context of a situation where you know that the other person is going nowhere and on your side no matter what that you can actually be free enough to confidently trust enough to feel safe.

The Rebellious Pastor's Wife said...

There's a really good book on this....Real Sex, by Lauren Winner.

She was the keynote speaker at the Cranach Institute's seminar on Love and Marriage last year, and she did a wonderful presentation on how we have normalized single sex and made married sex boring and negative.

Her book is really excellent. It also goes heavily into how we fail to address this subject well as Christians.

Big Ear Creations said...

It's VERY VERY true.

Sad really because it's within that amazing relationship that sex gets GOOD

Matt Vaandering said...

Three cheers for Sex! (Hip-hip...)

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