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3 January 2008

It's a lonely life

"This is a lonely life
Sorrows everywhere you turn
And that's worth something
When you think about it"
Paul Simon

Life is lonely more often than not. You can stand in room of many and be totally alone. With a single action... a friend can construct dividers, leaving you wearing the lonely shirt.

With one harsh worse, one sleep deprived flesh tantrum, one selfish feeling grab... you give in to the world's gravitational pull of separation.

1 Cor 6:16-20 (edited)
"There's more to sex than mere skin on skin. As written in Scripture, "The two become one." Since we want to become spiritually one with the Master, we must not pursue the kind of sex that avoids commitment and intimacy, leaving us more lonely than ever. These bodies were made for God-given and God-modeled love, for "becoming one" with another. Don't you see that you can't live however you please, squandering what God paid such a high price for? The physical part of you is not some piece of property belonging to the spiritual part of you. God owns the whole works. So let people see God in and through your body."

MORE lonely implies that there is a loneliness to living life. And physical contact isn't the only answer. There is a purity in the consecration found in lonely moments when you're drawn there instead of having it thrust upon you.

Luke 5:16 "But Jesus often withdrew to lonely places and prayed."
The good kind of lonely is not an awful place to be. Intimacy is easily found in these lonely moments. It's lingering in the very air around loneliness. Ironic.

When I'm lonely I hide in the unchanging. Heard a beautiful song from a Scottish (my people) band called "The Silencers" called "Scottish Rain".

"We dive into a dark doorway
Hiding from the clouds of grey
Oh babe
I don`t mind it at all
We stay close to one another
Laughing as we watch the waterfall

Rain Scottish Rain

I can feel your pulse beat so strong
Feel you warm and feel you young
Oh babe
Like children once again
We stay close to one another
Captives of the Scottish Rain

Rain Scottish Rain
Hope it don`t rain all day

We stay close to one another
Captives of the
Natives of the Scottish Rain

Radioactive Rain
Radioactive Rain"

It was written about the time after the Chernobyl nuclear accident where you couldn't go outside and all you could do was huddle with your lover because outside was just no good.
What a way to embrace the lonely life. Intimacy.

Friends forsake you... enemies assail you... God never changes.


The Bean Bag Chair said...

Thanx for your thoughts Dave...
I think lonelieness is uncomfortable because it leaves us prey to all our insecurites that scream in the silence. But when we choose not to fill this time with people and distractions, and move past the awkward and into the arms of the one who created us, we get to experience an intimacy that far surpasses the physical.
Of course...I'm talking as a lonely single person here...

Dave Carrol said...


I also think the verse "it is not good for man to be alone" is applicable to more than marriage.

I guess it's somewhat like what you were writing about taking "steps back". (not you personally but conceptually) I'm not a big fan of "steps back"... unless it's actually a step forward. You know? I think that often people hit tough patches and instead of forging through... they retreat (in defeat), under the ospice of reflection. Embracing all aspects of life (like lonely moments)is different than that.

That's when loneliness is not a good thing i think. Because it's then self inflicted isolation ... and I don't think that's a really healthy thing.

Everyone experiences being lonely married or not. I don't know really... always battled through how to best not just "deal with" it but "use it" because not moving forward just isn't an option.

Dave Carrol said...

Not saying thats you BTW... just waxing philosophic!

The Bean Bag Chair said...

wax on McDuff, wax on...

Just so you know...it's always stepping forward! As backwards as I look on the outside, God's been doing some great things...I just had to get my listening ears on...

Dave Carrol said...

and that's the way to do it!

that's why we like you...

that along with other things

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