I really like xxxchurch. That will not be an easy crowd but they're speaking some good truth. Talking about sex in the church is a funny thing man. It's difficult because Christians like firm answers (no pun intended......... yes it was intended). We like to have things spelled out black and white. And sex... is messy. In nearly every way.
It's complex. Because there needs to be decorum and privacy... but sex is SUCH a primary thought of human beings. Our perception of it, either leads to wonderful freedom or bondage and shame.
There's a church called Relevant Church that is in the middle of a 30 day sex challenge where they're asking married couple to have sex every day for 30 days... and single people to abstain from all sexual acts for 30 days. They also have curriculum that goes along with the "acting" that is designed to deepen our understanding of sex and increase intimacy levels.
And it's cool... even for Pastors, Church Leaders, Christians. Because being at peace with sex actually FREE'S you to be the person you're called to be.
Sex... is messy. It's not a science. It's a funky mix of emotion, primal urges, a spiritual potpourri of issues, kids, responsibility, liberation. Sex rarely even looks or feels like you thought it would. And truth be told... most of us suck at it. Single OR Married.
Or at least we think that we do. You make one mistake in a sexual area and you feel the weight of the world come down on you. It could be misplaced thoughts, screwing up on the internet late at night, being an ass to you wife leaving her thinking... "Why would I want to do ANYTHING with this guy?" It even could be a sexual encounter gone awry.
You begin to think... oh my gosh I suck. And we walk down the road to an unhealthy thought pattern about sex. I'm in this boat here too. Truth is... sex is messy. And there is no real "getting it right". It's the continual pursuit of intimacy. An intimacy that changes... and constantly has to be tweaked, changed, refined. It is such a God thing that it's even a primary biblical metaphor for Christ and his church...
...so we better keep talking about it man...