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7 April 2008

Feelings... nothing more than... feelings

I almost didn't even go to the Blue Jays home opener this year. I bought my ticket along with a group of friends months in advance and was really excited to go the only game of the year where 50,000 plus still gather and turn the Rogers Center into a madhouse. Watching baseball is really my one mental escape and opening day has been a tradition for me (in various forms) for decades.

But the day before the game, I had one of those "ministry moments" that really knocked the wind out of my sails. I'm not a terribly feely fella but this incident had me reeling uncharacteristically. I left my house Friday morning by telling Krissy that I wasn't planning on going to the game. I just kinda wanted to sit at home in the dark. Ha. Oh what a happy boy THAT would have made me.

My friend Sharlyss, who is a wonderful counselor (no not THE Wonderful counselor) has been speaking at Freedom House the last few weeks, and on Sunday she was talking a bit about depression. She said that the best thing that you can do for someone who is depressed is to just show up to that person's house and say... "Hey, we're going out. Get your coat". Don't even ask them if they feel like it, just grab them and do it. Because they aren't going to feel like it... but they need it.

That's what God did with me on Friday. My best friend growing up hopped on MSN and said that we should ride up to the game together. It was an offer I couldn't refuse. I hadn't actually seen my buddy in person in many years. Combine that with the fact that we'd been to about 15 opening day's in Toronto together. It was our little tradition. I had to buck up little camper and say yes.

Along the way, we called our other buddy from elementary school and invited him to come to the game too. He lives downtown TO so we parked at his place and walked over to the game. It was wild. The three of us grew up together playing baseball in our elementary school's tennis court. We'd play together in our league in the evening, followed by heading back to someone's house and watch the Jays. Now one works at a University... one is a lawyer... and I'm... whatever it is that I am. To have an adult moment like that was really cool and meaningful.

I got into the game and sat with another group of wonderful friends from a totally different era of my life. Mix that in with one wild baseball game full of streakers, 25 years of friendship, fist fights, heckling and some seriously sharp breaking curve balls... and it was a truly memorable and needed reminder that wallowing in our feelings is never the right thing to do.

Not disregarding feelings. But pressing through them is important.

The "incident"from the day before, was quickly worked through by me and my good friend. It just took few honest moments to let the jewel of a lasting friendship connected by God shine through the murk of surface feelings. Why do these things happen in the first place? Because feelings are a part of our human experience and can take us for quite a ride if we let them. In one day you can feel,

the sting of rejection,
the elation of 50,000 raising their voices at once,
the dull throb of careless words,
the wistfulness of reliving days gone by.

Feelings are a charmer. They'll dance you around and seduce you. They can also be a prophet. But feelings aren't to be trusted. Feelings are just a tipster that something is up. Check Proverbs 4: 3-9

When I was a boy at my father's knee,
the pride and joy of my mother,
He would sit me down and drill me:
"Take this to heart. Do what I tell you—live!
Sell everything and buy Wisdom! Forage for Understanding!
Don't forget one word! Don't deviate an inch!
Never walk away from Wisdom—she guards your life;
love her—she keeps her eye on you.
Above all and before all, do this: Get Wisdom!
Write this at the top of your list: Get Understanding!
Throw your arms around her—believe me, you won't regret it;
never let her go—she'll make your life glorious.
She'll garland your life with grace,
she'll festoon your days with beauty."

Go get wisdom. Find truth. Get understanding and wrap your arms around her.
Sure beats sitting at home alone in the dark.

1 comment:

lyn's lyrics & lifenotes said...

Excellent post Dave!

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