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8 October 2009

Confrontation

"I don't like confrontation"

It triggers a gag reflex in me when I hear people say this. Because it's usually spoken when someone is trying to...

a) avoid confronting someone/something
b) having something/someone confront them.

... and it's a weeny excuse. Confrontation in life is healthy, necessary and Biblical. The prophets confronted nations with sin, Paul confronted ANYONE who dared mess with God's church, God confronts us... well... all time. Like we talked about last night on Freedom House TV, someones God even kinda mocks us while confronting us!

Without it... we become selfish, weak and dull. Yup.

"Can't we all just get along?"

Yes that would be lovely wouldn't it. But no... we'll never all just ALL "get along" by osmosis. It takes work. Have you ever "just gotten along" with everyone in your life at all times? If you think you do, you're likely either lying to yourself or may have very shallow relationships... since people are different and that inevitably creates conflict. We think differently and speak differently. Communicate different. The tower of babel made sure that we'd be subjected to miscommunication, misunderstandings... and often not getting along. And you know what? That may be part of the plan! Any depth of relationship whatsoever involves confrontation, problem solving and work to achieve resolution.

It's quite a bit like how we have to work to allow our relationship with God to make sense and flow freely.

"Come on people now shine on your brother. Everybody get together try to love one another right now"

Why yes my flower child friend... this is the goal. First loving someone IS how confrontation works. Ephesians 4: 14-16 says

No prolonged infancies among us, please. We'll not tolerate babes in the woods, small children who are an easy mark for impostors. God wants us to grow up, to know the whole truth and tell it in love—like Christ in everything. We take our lead from Christ, who is the source of everything we do. He keeps us in step with each other. His very breath and blood flow through us, nourishing us so that we will grow up healthy in God, robust in love.

A "robust" love includes speaking the truth in love AND being prepared to RECEIVE (not just hear) the truth in love from someone else. If without it we're selfish, weak and dull... I think properly deepening our relationships make us humble, strong and sharp.

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